Who Pay For The Dinner?

Sharing meal costs with your partners has evolved in Vietnamese culture over the past decade. Traditionally, if you are the host of a gathering, you are responsible for the invitations, menu planning, and paying the bill. This remains true, especially in business settings, where if you are a guest, you can feel comfortable about the bill because it is often the case that you will reciprocate the kindness in the future.

However, social norms have shifted somewhat. When gathering with friends or colleagues, many Vietnamese people are now more inclined to share costs, especially if the bill is substantial. It is important to note that most restaurants in Vietnam typically do not offer separate bills for each individual, so whether you order a high-end cocktail or a simple lemon juice, the total is usually split evenly at the end.
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To alleviate the financial aspects of dining out, especially among close friends, it has become common for one person to cover the bill one time with the understanding that next time, another friend will take a turn. In the context of dating couples, the situation may differ from Western customs. Vietnamese men often prefer to take care of the bill, while women are typically less inclined to do so.
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In contemporary Vietnamese culture, men who pay for the entire meal are often seen as generous and chivalrous. However, this expectation can sometimes lead to misunderstandings or conflicts within relationships and does not fully represent the diverse perspectives within Vietnamese society. The most important aspect of dining out is to enjoy the company of friends and partners, regardless of who pays.